Being Bullied Changed Who I Was!

Hey you guys! I really wanted to just write a quick post about bullying. This is Bullying Prevention Month and I really want to try to make everyone aware of it and if you know about this already, then just a reminder.

Our children, especially, are at risk of being bullied at school and we have to do everything in our power to keep them safe from bullies and to also educate them on bullying.

It’s harder on the kids because they aren’t emotionally prepared for this, heck..I don’t know anyone, any age, that is prepared for this, but we need to make sure that they know that it’s safe to tell an adult about being bullied and to be aware of the bully at all times, in other words, help them to know that if they see their bully, turn around and go the other way or have someone with them at times they may see this person.

For anyone who is being bullied, don’t hide or be embarrassed about it. You haven’t done anything wrong and this won’t stop until you take action and tell someone who has some authority. If THAT person won’t help, then go to another one and keep going until someone helps you.

I was bullied in school because I was different and the kids that did it thought it was so funny to embarrass and humiliate me everyday. When I was 8 years old, I had a stroke and missed most of the school year, and they wanted me to just start fresh on the next year, but I wanted to go back so bad. Imagine being traumatized from all the doctors, hospitals, tests, therapy, and not being able to run and play like you used to, and you go back to school, so proud and so excited and the first thing they do is call you names and laugh and point at you???

I.WAS.DEVASTATED. I was quiet anyway, but there were a few kids who would play with me. After my stroke..NO ONE would even look at me unless they were laughing at me. I think that was when I broke. I didn’t say anything. I didn’t cry. I didn’t even tell anyone because at that time, we were still living with my alcoholic dad, so no..I just went home and pretended everything was fine because my mom had been through enough and I didn’t want to add more to it.

I have children of my own now and thank goodness for that! They kept me grounded and have brought me more joy than anything ever has. I taught them about bullies and also about kindness. Luckily, they chose kindness and even went so far as to stand up for their friends at times and I thank God everyday for that.

I know that alot of people these days are hesitent to get involved in a situation like this but that is exactly what we need to do, as long as it is not a dangerous situation. If you see this going on and can’t get involved, at least call someone who can help. Our children are the future of this planet and we need to make sure that they are safe and also educated on the destruction that can happen when bullied. I am passionate about stopping bullies from doing what they do and I am also passionate about teaching tolerance, kindness, and empathy, to our children and the first thing that we, as parents, can do, is set an example.

I am now happy and thriving in a way that I never have. I have changed my mindset and am healing my heart and soul for good. I’ll never go back to that pit again and I am forever grateful for the people in my life that have made it possible for me to even get up everyday and live the life that I’ve dreamed of living for so long.

Being bullied made me withdraw from having new friends, it made me want to disappear. It made me insecure and distrustful of everyone, it made me not know how to accept compliments, and it made me think that I was not good enough to love because I was flawed.

I carried that with me my whole life. Oh sure, I looked like I had confidence, but inside, I always felt like I was just not enough. Having feelings like that made me a people pleaser and although I do love helping everyone I meet, I went above and beyond to make people happy and in the process, I lost myself.

It wasn’t until last year that I decided that I had enough of that and I started the slow, painful process of really looking inward and deciding that I WAS good enough and that I didn’t want to be that way anymore. I am a work in progress, but oh what progress I’ve made! My love of helping people is still there, but it’s done out of love for myself and for those that I help. That is my wish for everyone..to love yourself completely and to never have to deal with someone bullying you.

Bullying is about control and when you stand up to them and make it known that you will not allow them to destroy you, you take that control away from them. I hope this helps in some way and that you never have to go through what I did.

Published by JStone

I am a Heart-Centered Life Coach on a mission to help others overcome their limiting beliefs, low self esteem and negative mindsets so that they can live the life they have been dreaming of!

3 thoughts on “Being Bullied Changed Who I Was!

  1. Such a powerful story! My heart goes out to you and I feel your pain. I was once bullied myself, but managed to overcome it just as you have. Know that you’re a warrior and I’m so proud of you! ❤

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