Pity Parties: Why do we do this?

I’ve been sick for the last four days and could hardly get up because all I did was sleep! I haven’t been this sick in awhile and it really stressed me out. I had work to do, writing to do, house to clean, and people to feed!! And then I had a big old pity party! What??

What the heck is going on? Why am I feeling low and negative? I haven’t done anything wrong and no one is complaining, but the minute I start feeling better, I feel guilty! What? I was sick! I felt like death! I had pneumonia for Gods sake! I wasn’t lallygagging around the pool eating bon-bons!! I was hurting and feverish and coughing a lot! Why do we do this?

Is it because we think we are super women who have to do everything perfectly? We have to make tons of money while running a business, raising children, who by the way have to be perfect, smart, and can play everything perfectly, we have perfectly clean and organized homes, we are perfect wives/ girlfriends to our husbands / boyfriends, and of course, we have to look perfect.. right??

Absolutely not!! If that were true, I would be a huge failure! I look like a hot mess most of the time, I get so busy that I forget to feed my husband dinner or even ask him to do it, my laundry is never all done, I don’t make much money, and my house has that lived in look to it. I forget important things I need to do because I’m ADHD and just the squirrels in my yard alone are enough to throw me off! I forget what I’m doing while I’m doing it and forget all that being smart and organized!!

Stop! Right now! We are good enough just because we are good enough. There isn’t any contest and there are no judges, just judgy, competitive, can’t mind their own business, people who make us feel like that! But guess what?? They only make us feel that way because we allow them to. It’s up to us, as to what we feel and what we do with our lives. Live your own life and forget the rest. We have to live with ourselves and we are in control of how we live and how we feel.

So this is my advice today. No more pity parties! If we have a bad day, then have that bad day. Just don’t unpack and live there. If you don’t feel like cooking or cleaning or whatever it is that you’re just not feeling today.. that’s ok. You do you and whatever that is.. it’s ok! Love yourself and be kind to yourself. You deserve it!