Getting through the holidays during hard times!

Well here we are, at the end of the year and hoping 2021 is going to be better. It’s Christmas time, the tree is up and the lights and decorations are up outside, making the yard look magical and pretty. I’ve done most of my shopping and I still haven’t had that excited spark that I usually have at Christmas.

I don’t know exactly what it is about this Christmas that has me feeling some kind of way, but I do not like it at all. I think maybe it’s because there are so many people that I know that are suffering from covid or at least the effects that covid has had on people’s lives. Jobs lost, businesses closed, lockdowns, people dying, and just the craziness of it all in general.

We have had a year with so many stresses, twists, and turns that we just don’t know what to think or feel or even expect in our futures and that scares the hell out of a lot of people. Even though life looks and feels pretty scary at times, We have to keep our eyes on the good stuff. We have to not dwell on the things that scare us or stress us out. I know that’s easier said than done, but if we are going to grow into this new life, we must stay positive and diligent in all that we do.

There are so many good things happening in our world that if we focused just on that, we would be jumping for joy! At least that’s how I feel. I am having a hard time too with the end of this year. I’m struggling to get that excited, little kid feeling that I usually have this time of year. I’m not sure what it is, but there is this gloom and doom attitude going on around me and I don’t like it. I don’t like it at all. I know it’s hard not to feel that way in this day and age but we can’t let the darkness take over our lives and allow fear to paralyze us. Fear lies to you and makes things thousand times worse and it makes you think of terrible scenarios that never happen.

We need to replace those doubts and fears with gratitude and faith. Faith in God or not depending on your choice of faith. Faith in ourselves, the world, people, whatever it is that you believe in that makes your life feel better. We are strong and powerful and you have no idea how much power we have in us. Power that some people are using to completely change their lives. Power that helps some to reach out to others to see if they are ok. Power to change the world around us because we, ourselves have changed. We are capable of doing really great things and we need to believe that we can.

There have been so many good things happening around us but if you are caught up in the dark, you’ll never see the beautiful things going on around you. People are working from home in new jobs that they created. They are with their children, although that can be stressful, lol…families are together. People are reaching out to help the homeless and the abandoned and abused. They are supporting and encouraging each other in their businesses and helping each other promote each other’s businesses. These are the people who suffer the most. Small businesses in our hometowns are built by local people with regular lives and they don’t get extra help when things are bad.

People are supporting and encouraging each other in daily life also. There are friends and family who FaceTime and zoom call each other more now than they ever have. We are looking at the little things again. Sweet things. We are more tolerant of certain things. We are doing the reflection in ourselves. We are looking for our passion. Our drive. Our joy in doing something we love.

I heard a story on Facebook today that talked about a person buying the persons behind them a coffee at Starbucks and then the next person did it and on and on all day! It’s fantastic! All those people paying it forward! How wonderful is that?? So you see, if we dwell on the scary and the negative, that is all we’ll see. But if we stay focused on the good things, that is what we will see and it will increase our positive thinking.

For those of you who are grieving this Christmas, I can offer you love, hugs, prayers, and good thoughts! I won’t tell you it’ll get easier because it’s never easy to lose a loved one but we do get stronger and as more time passes we are able to remember the great memories we have with those we’ve lost. You’ll have a thought one day about your loved one and you’ll smile. It’ll be a sad smile, but a smile nonetheless. Just know that they are with you always. In your mind, your heart, and your memories. Carry them forward with you into the next generation. Share their lives with those who will carry on after we are gone. Make sure their legacy keeps going throughout the generations.

It’s been such a long year but it hasn’t been all bad. We are still here, doing what we need to to get through it all and even though there’s been loss, illness, and a fear of losing it all, We’ve managed to adapt and keep our heads above water. We’ve created new lives and new jobs, we’ve expanded our online skills, and we’ve made some pretty good friends. That right there is enough to celebrate and I think we should! I think we should celebrate the little things too because life is short and sometimes it’s hard.

This Christmas, I want to celebrate life and the love of our friends and family. I want to celebrate new beginnings, and I want to celebrate even the hard things because they are what makes us who we are. There are going to be hard times in life, that’s a given… but we can face those hard things with courage and deal with them and keep moving forward.

I hope everyone who reads this feels a little better after reading it. I hope your holiday with your friends and family or not.. is exactly what you want it to be. I hope this new year brings us all everything You want and that you and your love ones are safe and healthy!

Published by JStone

I am a Heart-Centered Life Coach on a mission to help others overcome their limiting beliefs, low self esteem and negative mindsets so that they can live the life they have been dreaming of!

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